Desperate Shy Guy Needs help

[footballer]

Ok first off, I am not the "fine" guy most girls dream of. As a mtter of fact, I am the "cute" guy. I am kinda big which is kinda a disadvantage for me. I play football and am a star on my team. I have won all kinds of awards and stuff. I always get nervous when it comes to asking girls out. Now having a normal conversation, I am great at. This year when school started, I asked about 7 girls out, not all at once though, and the farthest I got was a date to a banquet. I was not looking for or anything, because I am waiting until marraige, something that is rare around my town. Most people know my position on that issue. I don't do anything illegal like smoke, drink, or anything. But anyway back to the girls. There was this one girl who I really liked though. She went with me to my football banquet and I went with her to her softball banquet. She was cool and I really enjoyed being around her. The thing is, when I asked her out and all, she kinda shrugged it off and said she didn't want a man right now. Now, she hasn't been out with anyone in atleast 5 months and that relationship lasted maybe a month. I know to give women their space, but do ya'll have any advice for me?? She is the type I would love to date.

[Datingcritic]

My friend, you're in high school, and from what it sounds like, you're in a small town... For whatever reason, these girls that you are into, aren't into you... You've mentioned though that "most people know my position" on ... Can't I ask why? I know guys in your position that tend to, say, shout it to the world... and not to say you should hide something like that.. But it seems that from that statement, that you maybe a little open to talking about everything, which may have lost the "enigma" that many girls like... I maybe totally on a limb here, but you also said you have a very conversive personality, and these two brief points may add up...

If this is true, you may want to tone yourself down a bit as far as letting everyone know you like an open book, and be up front, but not over-up-front... again.. that's from the very limited information I have from your post... toss in more details if you like and maybe we can help out a bit more..

Lance


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[footballer]

you are out on a limb. Our town isn't small but it isn't huge. Not everybody knows my position on the issue. I should clarify. But some people think i am this big pimp that is constantly having . And when they ask about it, I just clarify it. anything else you want to know