can't meet women.

[DMH78]

I need help, mabye professionail help but this forum is cheaper. I'm 26 never had a girlfriend, and have never had ( without paying for it). The closest I've come to ( free of charge) is a few make out sessions in bars with women that were total strangers. I find it impossible to meet women, I just don't where to start.

[styledating]

Did you try the dating sites? A lot of people meet that way.

[moltenstud]

Maybe you aren't attractive enough. That may sound harsh, but seriously, maybe you aren't. You can fix that though. You can learn how to show your attractive qualities, learn how to use body language effectively, and learn how to seduce women. I have all the stuff on my web site, moltenstud.tk (http://www.moltenstud.tk/). Right now, my best tip for you is just get out there and be courageous.


,MoltenStud

[Jenny]

Do you approach many girls? We are still in the day and age that most women expect the man to make the first move.

If you approach alot of girls but still aren't getting any where, maybe the girls you are meeting aren't the type for you. Try to find girls at places that are of an interest to you. Besides just bars and clubs, try concerts (if music is your thing) or a football/basketball game (if you're into sports). That way you'll know the two of your have at least one thing in common.

You also might want to take a step back and look at how you approach women. When you approach a girl, are you classy about it? Do you keep things friendly, or try to jump right into bed with them? Coming on too forceful, agressive, or perverted (expecting too much too fast) will quickly turn off just about any woman. Aside from the ones you've been paying for of course.

The last poster brought up your looks. How is your appearance? By that I'm not asking if you could be Brad Pitt's double, but do you have a clean and well-kept appearance? How much time do you spend on your looks? While you may not have been blessed with near model looks, that doesn't mean your doomed for life. Use what you've got. Make sure your hair/facial hair are trim and styled. Keep your wardobe up to date. Holey and stained jeans/shirts aren't going to impress anyone. Ask your female friends (or a sales person) to help you pick out a cologne that smells great on you. A guy with a fresh scent will get a woman's attention faster then you'd ever expect.

While looks play an important part, they are definitely not everything. You've got to have personality, and seem original. Don't ever lie to a girl to get her attention. No girl is gonna be impressed, and when she finds out the truth is going to hate and dispise you. And believe me, the truth will always come out. Probably at the worst possible moment too, so just avoid that whole situation all together and be honest. Use your sense of humor to impress her. Try to scoop her out, and see what she finds funny. Then joke around with her. Also, don't be afraid to talk to her (about anything). Outgoing guys are SO attractive. Most girls don't like shy guys. There is nothing worse then being around a cute guy and there being tons of awkward silence. Or feeling like you are pulling teeth just to get conversation out of him. If she ask you something, give more than one word answers. Instead of just saying 'yes' or 'no', give examples from previous experiences.

One more thing, once you have a girls attention don't start flirting with other girls. She'll think you treat every girl the same, and will lose interest if she doesn't feel important too you.

Hopefully some of these tips are helpful, and you can finally get the girl.

[moltenstud]

A guy I saw on the dance floor on a dinner cruise was up tops when I was up there. I just started talking to him. He had just dirty danced and made out with some "hot blond" he had just met fifteen minutes ago. You know what he said? "Just be outgoing and funny. That's what I do."

That was just after I was asked to dance by a beautiful girl from New Jersy.
"That's what you're supposed to do." I replied.

[shyguy]

DHM78, I was once in your shoes. I'm an outgoing person until I meet a girl I like. I'm the 'nice guy', not because I describe myself that way but women (who rejected me) do. I'm described as pretty good looking, I'm also ambitious and I have a lot going for me, but what is lacking? The answer was the ability to meet women that are single but when I do find one, she is either a crazy feminist or dates jerks. Some guys will give advice on how to change yourself to be more attractive. You shouldn't change yourself. The last girl that smashed my heart asked me how I woo women. She thought she could help me be more successful in the future but what ended up helping me in the end was an enlightening and liberating experience. You're 26 so you aren't too young (I'm 27). I’ll help guide you.
Do a search on yahoo.com or some other search site. Type in: latin matching service marriage. What I found was that high quality American women don't like nice guys, however, women in latin America (Columbia, Peru, etc) are perfectly willing to grab up a nice American/European guy (race doesn’t matter but they like white guys with blue eyes) as long as he truly is nice. If you aren’t a nice guy looking for long term then it’s better to just mess around here in the states. Some women are marriage material and some aren’t, keep them separate. Go for the educated fairly good looking ones, not the drop dead gorgeous ones. If you choose to date/marry a latina, do lots of research before you travel anywhere (it'll save you money) and there are message forums also.

this is probably the best help you can get.
Good luck

[Jenny]

What I found was that high quality American women don't like nice guys, however, women in latin America (Columbia, Peru, etc) are perfectly willing to grab up a nice American/European guy as long as he truly is nice.
Way to make generalizations. Ever stop to think that it's 'nice' guys like you that make American girls change our minds towards real nice guys. :rolleyes:

[shyguy]

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[iamthatjoseph]

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[Silversurfer]

Hmmmm I know what you mean. It's a jungle out there. It's hard to find a genuine person isn't it?

Where r u based? I've come across a site the has various links sorted by countries.

Yep... by countries. Some of it's free but you get what you pay for.

For me I'm prepared to invest a little rather than blowing all my $$$ at bars and clubs.

Check it out www.online-dating-4all.com

Good luck