i need your opinion

[PiterDeVries]

So ok i have this new girlfiriend, we met like 2 years ago but actuall started dating in April, she is a soriority chick and has an ex with which she has to do greek stuff and alot of buddies that she used to hang out with.

i am out for summer from town and on the first day i was out she went out with her ex for a dinner, on the second she went with her buddies to the bonfire and snuggled with one of them...

is there any reason why i should not brake up with her? i like her alot and she calls me like every 2 hours, but i just dont know...is it normal for 20year olds to go for dinners with ex's and to snuggle with male friends without making it ual?

Stuff she does just annoys the shit out of me, i just dont know if i should let her know about it or just dump her before i fall for her too hard


let me know wat u think..


pdv

[moltenstud]

My opinion is that you don't have a grip on this girl. She does what she wants when she wants. Do you two have a commitment or what? Set boundries. If she does something unapproved, give her a subtle "lack of attention" signal, and she should get the hint that what she did was not pleasing to you. Reward her for her good behavior, and if what she did was extreme, you may have to turn your back or leave the room. If she doesn't follow guidelines, turn the tables and half dump her (mixed signals). The more dominant you behave, the more respect you will get from her. Keep your cool though. If you need further assistance, check out my site at http://www.moltenstud.tk/.


,MoltenStud

[Jenny]

What you may see as her pushing the boundaries of your relationship, she may see as nothing big at all. Some girls are just really touchy feely by nature, and don't always realize what they are doing may bother you. This girl obviously cares about you if she calls you all the time. I think you just need to talk to her about it. Girls aren't mind readers. We won't know if something is bothering you if you never talk to us about it. It'd be kinda stupid to dump her without even giving her a chance to explain. Your relationship can't be very solid if you are ready to dump her at the first sign of a problem. All relationships need communication to succeed, so just talk to her and hopefully things can be patched up between the two of you.

[moltenstud]

She has a point there. It is possible that she doesn't know what she is doing. It would be really confusing to her if you stopped giving her attention when you haven't explained to her what's wrong. You still need to set boundries though. Tell her what you won't do, and tell her what she shouldn't do. Example: I won't dance with other girls, and you shouldn't cuddle with other guys. That should help.


,MoltenStud (http://www.moltenstud.tk/)

[87Ranger]

She's young, your young. If all your going to do is worry about it its time to move on, it isn't worth the worry. You're hanging with a soriority girl? Your good enough to find another one. There are a ton of fish in the sea....go fishing!