A question for the girls out there...

[Anderson]

OK, here's a little background to get this question started. I'm a 20 year old guy. Never had a girlfriend, and if I am completely honest, never even really had a date. I'm fairly intelligent, and I'm told I have a good personality. However, the downside of these is that I'm not exactly what you might call "skinny". :( I hear all the time "Oh, looks aren't that important." My question being...is this true? Are there really people out there who can want to get to know a person for who they really are, even when they're not all that attractive? I don't care what the answers are, but I'd like to get some opinions.

J.

[Jenny]

Contrary to popular belief, looks ARE important. I've never found anyone who could date someone only based on personality. There has to be some kind of physical attraction. Not to say you have to look like a supermodel to get dates, but there has to be some appeal physically for a person to want to stay with you.

Even someone that's not physically very attractive, can become more attractive with their personality. Also, you have to keep in mind that not everyone's opinion of physical beauty is the same. We all look for and are attracted too different things.

You mentioned you aren't skinny. Well skinny guys aren't the only ones that get attention. I go for more than just skinny guys. I don't mind if a guy has a little bit of pudge, because I know that not everyone is perfect, nor do I expect them to be.

HOWEVER, I would not date a guy that is extremely overweight or obese. Not because I'm shallow though(even though it may seem that way). My reason is because I don't believe those people know how to take care of themselves. To me, it seems like their appearance and health aren't important to them. If a person can't take care of themself, how are they going to take care of me? Why would they care about my needs when they can't even fulfill their own?

You have to care for yourself and your well-being, before you can expect others to care for you.

Keep your head up and stay positive. Hopefully some day soon a girl will notice you as more than just a 'great personality'. :)

[moltenstud]

The way you look and act is more important than how beautiful your body is, but it helps to be beautiful because you get checked out more. So let's just say you are fat. Chances are that as long as you are attractive in other areas, you can still get a date. Be the outgoing and funny person you are ;) because that's what matters the most.


,MoltenStud (http://www.moltenstud.tk/)