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NeonOrange
08-04-2005, 04:18 PM
This is a long story but I need help and maybe some advice on what I should do, so I'm going to start my story from the beginning.

[Thursday]

I'm driving down the main drag in my home town in my nice car when I come along a girl and her friend driving right beside me. I look at the driver and I find her very attractive, I start talking to her as I'm driving down the street and she said lets pull over. We pull over and just start talking in general. After talking to her, I invite her back to my house to go cruising in my car. She says that she just wants to fellow me to my friends house were we end up just hanging out at. We leave his house and she fellows me to her exit because she didn't know how to get back home and that was it. I never got her number or anything, I thought it was just a one night deal of fun.

[Friday]

The next day at night I'm working on my car and she pulls up in my drive way out of know were with her friend. We start talking in general again inside my house. After about an hour or so something came up that I had to take care of and she left but I asked for her number and she gave it to me.

[Saturday]

The next day after work (9pm) she calls me saying that she really wanted to see me. We make plans for the night, we went out to eat at O'Charles (payed for myself) and then went to Newport on the Levee (very nice attraction) to see a movie (Wedding Crashers). I payed for me, her and her friend. Her friend was with her the whole time. Going to the restaurent and movies, she let me drive her car the whole time because she didn't know how to get around the quick way. At the movies the only thing we did was hold hands and kind of massaged each others legs, nothing much. Afterwards, all three of us went to a park at night to see the city lights, toke some pictures and went back to my house to drop me off cause we switched cars. Switched drivers and open the car door for her and that was it.

[Sunday]

She called me before I went to work telling me that she hopped I had a good day at work. Later that day I offered lunch but she declined because she thought she didn't look good at the time to go out in public.

[Monday]

Tryed calling her but never got ahold of her. Called three times that day.

[Tuesday]

Before going to work I had went to the local flower shop and had some flowers sent to her work. I felt that she was under alot of stress and she was. I'll explain that at the end. She called me later that day saying she was really happy and thanked me alot for what I did and keep going on and on. Said she would call me tomorrow after she got off work.

[Wednesday]

No call!

[Thursday]
The day goes on, will call her tonight after work and ask if she wants to go to the ball game on sunday and spend the rest of the day at the aquarium.

The girl is going threw a divorce and totally hates the man that she was only married to for 7 months. She is 20 and I'm 18 years old. I really like this girl and think she would be the perfect person for me but...I just need some advice on what to do. I feel that she might not be interested but I also know she is going threw alot right now with the divorce. Please any comments would be really appreciated and if anything seems unclear, please ask. Thanks

87Ranger
08-04-2005, 05:42 PM
Your both very young, and going through a divorce isn't a good thing (maybe for her, but right now for you two it isn't). I'm dating a woman who is going to get a divorce and everyone tells me the same thing. Move on with your life and be her friend, but give her some room. She may find that her new found freedom gives her the chance to meet other new men, which may turn you in the other direction. The hardest thing is giving someone the freedom to choose, and knowing they may not choose you. If you care you'll give her what she needs. And whatever choice she makes, you'll respect it. Keep the word "perfect" on the down low with her for awhile.

eightball61
08-04-2005, 06:32 PM
You both just met a week ago. Your current goal should be getting to know her as a friend first. She has just gotten out of a marriage and may still need time to cope with things. She is young and may also want to play the single field for a while.

So with that said you are better off getting to know her as a friend first. You want to make sure that you are not going to be a rebound. She needs time to cope and you need time to get to know her. So relax alittle and allow nature take its course.

NeonOrange
08-05-2005, 03:21 AM
I think I'm taking things pretty slow. I understand the situation that she is in because my mother just currently went threw a divorce. Today I called her after I got home from work and before going to school to ask her about Sunday and the only thing I got was a voice mail. After class was over I still hadn't received a phone call and called her and she answered the phone. She said that she didn't want to say yes or no about Sunday, I told her that I just want to take her out so she could get things off her mind and not have to worry about anything. Just have a good day. She said that she would let me know. After the conversation that we had she called me right back asking if I could give her cousin Justin a price break on some car audio were I work? I was kind of confused on that. She said that they "might" stop by tomorrow when I was at work. I really am trying my best to get to know her but on the other hand not trying to push things in the wrong direction. I've been trying to let her call me but I cant resist sometimes. Starting tonight, i will let her call me! Is that a good thing? I don't want to have her think I'm annoying or anything

87Ranger
08-05-2005, 05:08 AM
I wouldn't call her, I would wait it out and see just how important you are to her, and not for material things.

eightball61
08-05-2005, 02:16 PM
I don't want to have her think I'm annoying or anything


If you feel that you are taking things slow then continue on this pace. You may want to tell her to mention whenever feels pressured by you. .

Goodluck :)

NeonOrange
08-05-2005, 03:20 PM
Perfect, I appreciate it alot. I'll let everyone know whats going on Sunday night. Thanks again

eightball61
08-05-2005, 03:44 PM
Take Care ;)

NeonOrange
08-08-2005, 12:25 AM
No call Friday night, called me Saturday right when I was leaving work to see if her and her cousin could meet me at my work to get the items for his car and she said she would call me back and let me know but never called me back and I was waitin around. Never even called me last night or tonight to let me know if she was going to go with me to the baseball game or not. I still went with a friend and had a good time but I really wanted her to come with me. I think thats pretty shitty when you invite someone and they said they will call you and let you know and they never do.

eightball61
08-08-2005, 12:30 AM
I think thats pretty shitty when you invite someone and they said they will call you and let you know and they never do.


I am glad to hear that you still had a good time with your friend.....

There could be a good explanation for this but she could have spared 2 minutes to call you. This could be a sign that she isn't interested. Don't waste your time trying to track down an explanation. Let her come to you with the apology & if she doesn't then just move one.

NeonOrange
08-08-2005, 02:23 AM
I hope their is a reason why she didn't call me but like you said, she could of spared 2 minutes to call me. She seems like that type of person that is forgetful of things. I'll just let her come to me, maybe once is divorce is final, then things might change. We'll see if she calls me at all this coming week, if she only calls about her cousin, I'll be pretty annoyed. Don't you agree? Thanks for all the input! By the way, I got burnt at the ball game, lol and they lost but the experience was always fun and a good laugh on some of the things

stryker6040
08-08-2005, 04:38 AM
I hope their is a reason why she didn't call me but like you said, she could of spared 2 minutes to call me. She seems like that type of person that is forgetful of things. I'll just let her come to me, maybe once is divorce is final, then things might change. We'll see if she calls me at all this coming week, if she only calls about her cousin, I'll be pretty annoyed. Don't you agree? Thanks for all the input! By the way, I got burnt at the ball game, lol and they lost but the experience was always fun and a good laugh on some of the things

hey dude i am kinda going though the same thing as you except mine is with an ex from about 6 months ago and she current has a boyfriend that is on the rocks. i know how you feel but dont let it get you down just try to stay busy and keep your mind off it and if its meant to be it will work out in the end but i hate it when people promise to call and never do. gives you that feeling of being left out

eightball61
08-08-2005, 12:09 PM
I'll just let her come to me, maybe once is divorce is final, then things might change. Don't you agree?


^^ Yes, I do agree to this quote above.....

NeonOrange
08-08-2005, 01:25 PM
I always hate being left out. I'm really to worried about it anymore after thinking about things lately. Like you said I'll just keep her out of my mind by keeping busy which won't be hard when I go to school full time and work as well. It does seem like shes been spending alot of time with her family lately, I guess they are just trying to stay to her side and support her. But like everyone has said, if things are meant to be then she will call!

eightball61
08-08-2005, 01:30 PM
But like everyone has said, if things are meant to be then she will call!


All you can do is allow her time to work out that divorce. If it was meant to be then she will come around.

NeonOrange
08-11-2005, 05:10 PM
It's almost been a week and haven't seen her nor hear from her at all. The last time I talked to her was like Saturday or something around there. Lately I haven't been thinking about her, maybe once or twice a day but not much at all. Have't tried calling her at all as well. I was just curious, maybe to show some sweetness in me or thoughtfullness, should I call her maybe when she's at work and just leave her a voice mail just stating that I'm hoping everything is going good with the divorce or something along those lines? Or should I not even bother calling and leaving a voice mail? Thanks

stryker6040
08-11-2005, 05:17 PM
It's almost been a week and haven't seen her nor hear from her at all. The last time I talked to her was like Saturday or something around there. Lately I haven't been thinking about her, maybe once or twice a day but not much at all. Have't tried calling her at all as well. I was just curious, maybe to show some sweetness in me or thoughtfullness, should I call her maybe when she's at work and just leave her a voice mail just stating that I'm hoping everything is going good with the divorce or something along those lines? Or should I not even bother calling and leaving a voice mail? Thanks

good to hear from you again was wondering what was going on. i wouldnt even bother calling her. as stated before im kinda in the same boat and i find it easier not to call cause then i dont find myself expecting anything back, plus keeps me from thinking about it. sometimes i have found that if you play that aspect of it doesnt bother you, it will bring them closer but im no expert, just a pon in this so called game of love

NeonOrange
08-11-2005, 06:10 PM
i find it easier not to call cause then i dont find myself expecting anything back, plus keeps me from thinking about it.

^I would have to agree on that part^ After thinking about it for a couple of minutes, it's really true. Everyday I think about her less and less...It's kind of weird in a way but it does work.

eightball61
08-12-2005, 12:03 AM
It's almost been a week and haven't seen her nor hear from her at all. The last time I talked to her was like Saturday or something around there. Lately I haven't been thinking about her, maybe once or twice a day but not much at all. Have't tried calling her at all as well. I was just curious, maybe to show some sweetness in me or thoughtfullness, should I call her maybe when she's at work and just leave her a voice mail just stating that I'm hoping everything is going good with the divorce or something along those lines? Or should I not even bother calling and leaving a voice mail? Thanks


When she is ready then she will contact you. You have adapted to start functioning without wanting to call her everyday. If you call her then that will set a huge set-back and it will take more time for you to recover from that mistake.