Should I try Online Dating?

[DatingPort]

Here's some advice as you browse the online dating service. We will not go into free online dating or how to place your personal ads or what to say to beautiful women,but more about checking out all the online services and what they have to offer. The FIRST thing you should do as you visit each singles service is to join as a free member and place your personals profile. Now, why join all of these dating services? You are getting more exposure to the men or women you are looking for. It makes sense to place your personal ads on 10 online dating services rather than just one singles site. Many of free memberships offered don't let you contact other members unless you buy a dating membership. So, the key is joining as many online dating services as a free member because other paid members can email you. These online dating services are letting you join for free and you have the opportunity to meet the beautiful womenand men you are looking for at no cost to you.

What is online dating? Online dating has exploded in the last few years. Some sites have over 20 million members who use their photo personals to find each other, there are over 10,000 free online dating services on the internet that cater to any group. In fact, over 100 million people have tried online dating and over a 100,000 new people go online in search of singles on a weekly basis.

Online dating is the mainstream. Television shows have featured entire episodes on online dating. Men and women have found that online dating might just be the perfect way to meet that special man or woman. Online personals are the Internet's equivalent of a singles bar with personality. At their most basic level online photo personals are giant databases of single's pictures, videos, and backgrounds that you can scan through. There are a lot of advantages to trying online personals compared to looking at a singles bar. With online personals all you need is the Internet and the ability to read. The services are open 24-7 and are filled with thousands if not millions of photo personals from single men and women.

For online dating you don't need to dress up. One of the biggest advantages that people think of when they get into dating services online is anonymity. You don't have to walk up to a person and ask them out through online personals. Many people put up a photo personals profile and wait. Also if you are sending emails to people on your favorite online personals dating site, you have to remember that a man or woman may just delete your message.

Most online dating personals services are open to nearly anyone, but the success of singles finding a lasting relationship is less than 10%. So if this is such a great way to meet singles, why is there such a high rate of failure when using online dating services? When you try one of the over 10,000 online dating services sites on the web you need to remember that nobody is perfect. If you are so inflexible that you will dismiss any potential match who is not perfect in every single way than you are destined to be very lonely for a very long time.

[eightball61]

The term "online dating" means desperate & unable to date locally.

[DatingPort]

The term "online dating" means desperate & unable to date locally.

That may have been true in the beginning but those days are over. The truth is that more people are turning to "online dating" as a way to broaden their horizons, even locally. There are many Groups and forums aimed specifically toward those people of a certain region or locality so they may find more people than they would normally find in their everyday "offline" lives.

For example, you can do a search on Google or Yahoo for local dating forums or groups. Some of these sites cater to specific cities. I've visited some of these sites and they have very real, nice people who are fun to talk to. They are not desperate, nor are they incapable of finding someone locally. As a matter of fact, some of these sites sponsor their own outings for their members.

[eightball61]

For example, in my dating directory,

^^ Your points are only trying to get people to use your services. This is actually called spaming & this is something that is not aloud on these boards as you agree to when you signed up.

I do understand your view...... Many people are turning to the net as an easy source to find a partner but I have been a long time member of relationship boards around the net and I deal with these issues one-on-one of those that had troubles with online dating. There is some success but there is more failure than good. Most of the failures come from lies, distance, no physical or emotional contact, and this list can go one.

My point being is that the stats. are not as good as you present them.

[DatingPort]

Most online dating personals services are open to nearly anyone, but the success of singles finding a lasting relationship is less than 10%.

THe stats are far less than I present them? I don't think so. I too have been doing this a long time. Before the Internet you had the same people looking for the same advice. Why? For the same reasons you just stated.

I too agree with your point about lies, distance, etc...
but its human nature to make yourself look better while hiding behind a keyboard but many local forums and groups are very open, honest and some give great advice like this one. You just have to look for them.

I only used my site as an example because its unbiased. Its like a phone directory. I don't make money from the listings. Mine comes from the graphical advertising. 4500 listings versus 25 affiliate programs. That comes out to 99.5% versus .5%. I really don't see that as trying to get them to use my services. Perhaps I should have said to do a yahoo or google search to find a local dating forum or group. I didn't intend to come off as directing them to use my services. I have edited my posts to refect this.

[eightball61]

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[DatingPort]

I didn't mean for this post to turn into an all out war but since you obviously don't own your own site(s),

A) Most forums I belong to allow you to post your link in your signature and your profile. ;)

B) This site has no "Paid" advertisers. They run Google Adsense, Adbrite, Azoogleads, and some affiliate programs as far as I can see. These are contextual based ads from ad networks which run on a CPC or CPA basis. :eek:

C) Since there is nothing in their TOS that says I can't place my link in my signature, I did. I also just emailed them for clarification of their TOS about my signature. I'll let you know their response. :cool:

[eightball61]

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[DatingPort]

If the admin says to do that, then I will. Until then the link stays.

[DatingPort]

Back to the original thread:

A study done by Ipsos-Reid for
Lavalife (an online dating service) gives you an idea of who is using
these services and why:

Out of 1000 respondents (500 male/500 Female):
28% were aged 18-34
42% were ages 35-54
28% were ages 55 and older

40% had an income of $50K or greater
29% had an income of $25-49K
20% had an income of less than $25K

35% were from the South
23% were from the Midwest
21% were from the West
19% were from the Northeast

62% had children

71% had some college or a degree

81% were white

Here are the response to some questions they were asked, which will give you an indication of why they use these services:

52% felt that they had a better or equal chance of meeting someone online rather than in a singles bar.

However, only 40% felt that a relationship started online had a better or equal chance of success.

The key stat, I think, was that 70% would not recommend using online dating services to their friends.

[DatingPort]

Perhaps the greatest problem facing the online dating industry is that of “phony” profiles. Some estimates are that as many as 40% of male profiles on dating websites are those of married men posing as bachelors.


High percentages of online daters, both male and female, are estimated to lie about their age, height, weight, and income. And there are many horror stories of singles posting obsolete photos of themselves. Women often complain of being buried with dishonest emails from men claiming to be good looking, well-off, and in great shape. After many wasted hours they discover that the vast majority of these men are liars. As the New York Times reported, “Many online daters turn out to be married, and it is taken for granted that everybody lies a little.”


Most troubling, felons are concealing their criminal records. As USA Today pointed out, “with the mere click of a mouse, you can stumble across a serial killer just as easily as your soul mate.” (“Truth in Advertising Hits Internet Dating,” USA Today).


Verification of profiles and photos is therefore a critical area of concern. Millions of singles have dropped out of internet dating because of bad experiences with dishonest members of dating websites. They are likely to return to online dating if a solution to this problem is provided. The International Association of Dating Websites urges dating websites to offer their members the opportunity to get their photos verified and background checks performed. A number of companies are currently offering these kinds of services to online daters. Among the most notable:


betterDatingbureau.com is not a dating website, but rather, works with a person’s online dating service. Subscribing members’ photos have been professionally taken by bDB’s photography company and are dated. Members have been voluntarily screened (like a new employee) by bDb’s screening company and their summarized “Personal Credibility Reports” are posted along with their dated photos in certified “Member Reports.” Accurate/current photographs and certified personal information, including “Marital Status Indicators” are included. There are three levels of membership: Bronze members are certified in terms of the date their photo was taken, height, and age. Silver members are certified for these factors plus marital status (based on current paystub declaration and last year’s W2 and employment status. Gold Members are certified for all of these factors, plus, education, job title, industry last 5 years, credit rating, rent/own resident, average income (3 years, )driving record, and criminal record. bDb is paid directly by the dater, rather than the dating website. bDb shares the revenue with the dating website the dater belongs to, so this is an additional profit center for the dating website. Contact Warren Austin, warren@betterdatingbureau.com, 480/947-4260.


Match.com “employs more than 100 people to read every bit of data that a subscriber inputs, which is then checked for consistency and oddities,” says president Tim Sullivan, who adds that 2,000 people are booted off the site every month because data doesn’t square,” according to USA Today.


CertifiedDates.com checks out marital status and criminal records of singles who are members. Skipp Porteus, a New York private investigator, is the Founder. 212/579-4302, prez@certifieddates.com.


True.com, in partnership with a criminal-record database firm called Rapsheets.com, which stockpiles 150 million records compiled from more than 110 state and county agencies. is an online matching service that provides multiple layers of security, including criminal screening. Anyone whose name has a felony conviction recorded is automatically prevented from communicating with members. At signup, every TRUE member agrees to follow a code of ethics. Members are allowed to block out matches in six categories. TRUE requires that every member certify that he or she is not married, and all community members are screened against public records to check marital status.

[DatingPort]

Internet Dating More Successful than Thought
(onlinedatingmagazine.com)

Internet dating is proving a much more successful way to find long-term romance and friendship for thousands of people than was previously thought, new research shows.

A new study of online dating site members has found that when couples who had built up a significant relationship by e-mailing or chatting online met for the first time, 94 per cent went on to see each other again.

Perhaps surprisingly, the study, by Dr Jeff Gavin, of the University of Bath, also found that men were more emotionally dependent on their ‘e-partners’ than women, and more committed to the relationship.

Old-fashioned romance isn’t dead, however: among the survey’s findings were that exchanging gifts was the best way to ensure commitment in the relationship.

Dr Gavin’s research comes at a time when the numbers using internet dating agencies have steadily increased: around six million Britons are now believed to have signed up.

Dr Gavin, with Dr Adrian Scott of the University of Bath and Dr Jill Duffield of the University of the West of England, carried out an online survey of 229 people, aged 18 to 65, who have used UK internet dating sites, asking them about their main relationship that they had had online. Dr Gavin’s paper will be presented to a conference next month.

The research showed that:

• 94 per cent of those surveyed saw their ‘e-partner’ again after first meeting them, and the relationships lasted for an average of at least seven months, with 18 per cent of them lasting over a year.

• men online were significantly more likely to be committed to the relationship than women and were more dependent on their ‘e-partner’.

• the more the couple engaged in simultaneous online chat before meeting rather than simply e-mailing one another, the more they were found to depend on one another emotionally and the more they understood one another.

• those who exchanged gifts before meeting had a more committed and deeper relationship.

• the more the couple talked on the telephone before they met, the deeper the relationship.

Dr Gavin, of the University’s Psychology Department, and his co-authors, found that people using the internet rarely used webcams, which allow computer users to see one another, because they preferred the greater anonymity of writing and using the telephone.

“This study shows that online dating can work for many people, leading to a successful meeting for almost everyone we surveyed,” said Dr Gavin.

“Given that the most successful relationships lasted at least seven months, and in some case over a year, it seems that these relationships have a similar level of success as ones formed in more conventional ways.

“We found that men tend to be more committed to the online relationships than women, possibly because the anonymity of writing gives them a chance to express their emotions more readily than in real life.

“We also found that people are shying away from using webcams because they feel it’s important not see their partners for some time – there is something special about text-based relationships.”

Dr Gavin believes that the reason that using the telephone and online chatting indicates a deeper relationship is that these are methods of simultaneous communication, whereas e-mails are more formal.

Of the relationships, 39 per cent were still going on at the time of the survey, and of these 24 per cent had been going for at least a year, and eight per cent for at least two years. Of the relationships that had already ended at the time of the survey, 14 per cent had lasted over a year, and four per cent had lasted over two years.

[Tammy]

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Tammy

[michelle324]

try it. whats to lose. well i did try it and it was ok. i went to wealthymendotcom. its really not desperate (or maybe i just don't want to admit because i use dating sites, i don't know... lol!), its just a better way of finding someone, even from your area... but thats just me talking...

[whisky]

Its worked for me, the best are the ones that are free these days so no money lost if you dont like it, found a good one ilovetodateu

That may have been true in the beginning but those days are over. The truth is that more people are turning to "online dating" as a way to broaden their horizons, even locally. There are many Groups and forums aimed specifically toward those people of a certain region or locality so they may find more people than they would normally find in their everyday "offline" lives.

For example, you can do a search on Google or Yahoo for local dating forums or groups. Some of these sites cater to specific cities. I've visited some of these sites and they have very real, nice people who are fun to talk to. They are not desperate, nor are they incapable of finding someone locally. As a matter of fact, some of these sites sponsor their own outings for their members.

[david616098]

The differences in views on online dating is interesting . people mention statistics on online dating if you dont mind me asking how good are the statistics and where are you getting them .

Personally i think just like anything else it has the good and the bad.

[lovinlife4]

I found this girl online and we started talking. She asked for my phone number so I gave it to her. After countless calls and five minute messages I had to block her phone number, and then came the calls from other phones. To say the least, I didn’t think online dating was for me. I started again a couple of weeks ago after I found this website that gives you a free phone number and you can have your calls forwarded from the free number they give you. I was skeptical at first but they give you like 60 free minutes, the site is matchdigits, hope it helps you avoid my situation.

[shafprince]

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[vanessabg]

Here's some advice as you browse the online dating service. We will not go into free online dating or how to place your personal ads or what to say to beautiful women,but more about checking out all the online services and what they have to offer. The FIRST thing you should do as you visit each singles service is to join as a free member and place your personals profile. Now, why join all of these dating services? You are getting more exposure to the men or women you are looking for. It makes sense to place your personal ads on 10 online dating services rather than just one singles site. Many of free memberships offered don't let you contact other members unless you buy a dating membership. So, the key is joining as many online dating services as a free member because other paid members can email you. These online dating services are letting you join for free and you have the opportunity to meet the beautiful womenand men you are looking for at no cost to you.

What is online dating? Online dating has exploded in the last few years. Some sites have over 20 million members who use their photo personals to find each other, there are over 10,000 free online dating services on the internet that cater to any group. In fact, over 100 million people have tried online dating and over a 100,000 new people go online in search of singles on a weekly basis.

Online dating is the mainstream. Television shows have featured entire episodes on online dating. Men and women have found that online dating might just be the perfect way to meet that special man or woman. Online personals are the Internet's equivalent of a singles bar with personality. At their most basic level online photo personals are giant databases of single's pictures, videos, and backgrounds that you can scan through. There are a lot of advantages to trying online personals compared to looking at a singles bar. With online personals all you need is the Internet and the ability to read. The services are open 24-7 and are filled with thousands if not millions of photo personals from single men and women.

For online dating you don't need to dress up. One of the biggest advantages that people think of when they get into dating services online is anonymity. You don't have to walk up to a person and ask them out through online personals. Many people put up a photo personals profile and wait. Also if you are sending emails to people on your favorite online personals dating site, you have to remember that a man or woman may just delete your message.

Most online dating personals services are open to nearly anyone, but the success of singles finding a lasting relationship is less than 10%. So if this is such a great way to meet singles, why is there such a high rate of failure when using online dating services? When you try one of the over 10,000 online dating services sites on the web you need to remember that nobody is perfect. If you are so inflexible that you will dismiss any potential match who is not perfect in every single way than you are destined to be very lonely for a very long time.
You should try online dating because i like online date instead of local date.

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[sophiarosy]

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[johnnylingo]

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[VelvetSky]

nowadays, people want to save some money cause dating in real life can be quite expensive. so that a factor also.

[filipina4friend]

If you did not try yet, you can try it but be sure you really know who is that woman or man before you enter a relationship.

[No Wrong Dates]

There is a much greater opportunity to meet people in your locale whether you recently moved to an area or have been there for awhile. Most people lead fairly busy lives these days and haven't the time to go out multiple times each week to meet and greet. Online posts allow you to review and select potential love interests by first getting to know more about them via emails and public outings and also rule out those personalities that are not compatible. As for deception - please that is not limited to errant photos or physical descriptions online - but many women ages 20's through 60's complain that people they have met face to face and socialize with regularly are not who they seem. Many married folks make that complaint - thus the high divorce rate! Online information whether about dating, activities, peer groups, etc offer individuals opportunities to meet people they may not otherwise meet.

[alicia8522]

I understand your points, but are they really going to help. What if I go on signing up in different sites and no one pings me? And generally in free dating site, most members will be free, and there will be very few paid member to ping me.

[Arenwilli]

Making good relationship for success and instant effects to increase your circle of influence,for that Online internet dating is really good way to convey all sorts of message immediately.
If any serious consideration to online dating, you may have to spent some time exploring dating services and age doesn't matter need to make some efforts.Thanks for the recommendation.:)

[kashifpk]

Yes you can do it, you can find the best match.

[aprces]

i think you should give a try to start a online dating, just like me, i got my beloved through internet but long distance