shankems2000
01-03-2006, 08:17 AM
I'm not even sure how to start. As the title reads, I have no confidence with women. There were plenty of times where women (hot ones too) have made it blatantly obvious that they wanted to be wtih me, but I never took the next step.
What goes through my head is that she must have some sort of alterior motive, whether it be my money or my car or whatever, because there is no way in HELL this gorgeous woman is interested in me because of my looks or personality.
I'm usually very timid and shy around them, at least the good looking ones. The not so good looking women are the ones I am supremely confident and comfortable around. It's CRAZY!! But when they are interested in me I don't want to get involved with them exactly because they aren't that great looking and I'm not ually attracted to them at all. See the hypocrisy there?
I am a very lonely man. I have friends and everything, but they can only do so much. I yearn for some female companionship. On Friday nights when my friends are probably either cuddled up on the couch next to their GF's or taking them out to dinner and a movie or what have you, I'm usually at home sleeping, eating or watching T.V.
I even find myself making excuses not to go out with my friends sometimes when I know they're taking their GF's with them, because I don't want to have to be the only single one in an outing among a group of couples. It's very depressing as you can imagine.
I've tried doing various things to raise not just my confidence with women but my overall confidence to no avail. I've done things that I love to do, like drawing and making music. The confidence level is off the charts when I'm engaged in either of those activities, but that confidence never crosses over to when I see a female that I'm attracted to, I just shrivel up back into this timid shell of a man.
I've tried lifting weights as well, thinking "hey maybe if I look better I will have more confidence" but come to find out after a year of working out every other day I saw no results. I'm a hard gainer and what that basically means is that my metabolism is so fast that my body tends to burn off more muscle than fat which makes it very hard to build and maintain muscle mass, hence the term hard gainer. I've tried bulking and that didn't work either, so I just gave up on trying to look better in that aspect because I got discouraged. So there goes another chance at raising my confidence thrown right out the window.
In conclusion, I'm a hypocritical, timid, shallow and as you've probably guessed already, still a virgin.
Is there anything that you people think I can do to cure my apparent ailment?
What goes through my head is that she must have some sort of alterior motive, whether it be my money or my car or whatever, because there is no way in HELL this gorgeous woman is interested in me because of my looks or personality.
I'm usually very timid and shy around them, at least the good looking ones. The not so good looking women are the ones I am supremely confident and comfortable around. It's CRAZY!! But when they are interested in me I don't want to get involved with them exactly because they aren't that great looking and I'm not ually attracted to them at all. See the hypocrisy there?
I am a very lonely man. I have friends and everything, but they can only do so much. I yearn for some female companionship. On Friday nights when my friends are probably either cuddled up on the couch next to their GF's or taking them out to dinner and a movie or what have you, I'm usually at home sleeping, eating or watching T.V.
I even find myself making excuses not to go out with my friends sometimes when I know they're taking their GF's with them, because I don't want to have to be the only single one in an outing among a group of couples. It's very depressing as you can imagine.
I've tried doing various things to raise not just my confidence with women but my overall confidence to no avail. I've done things that I love to do, like drawing and making music. The confidence level is off the charts when I'm engaged in either of those activities, but that confidence never crosses over to when I see a female that I'm attracted to, I just shrivel up back into this timid shell of a man.
I've tried lifting weights as well, thinking "hey maybe if I look better I will have more confidence" but come to find out after a year of working out every other day I saw no results. I'm a hard gainer and what that basically means is that my metabolism is so fast that my body tends to burn off more muscle than fat which makes it very hard to build and maintain muscle mass, hence the term hard gainer. I've tried bulking and that didn't work either, so I just gave up on trying to look better in that aspect because I got discouraged. So there goes another chance at raising my confidence thrown right out the window.
In conclusion, I'm a hypocritical, timid, shallow and as you've probably guessed already, still a virgin.
Is there anything that you people think I can do to cure my apparent ailment?