Does she like me, should i ask her out???HELP

[Majordubt]

Sorry if this is so lengthy but please read, and help me out.There is this girl i have liked for a few months, and she goes to my church. But we have a history in knowing each other. When we were little like say 3rd,4th, 5th grade i had liked her then, but then i didn't know here. I would always tease with her and play tag and stuff. But then she left my church. Now she came back like 2 years ago and right know im a junior. She was going out with one of my best friends. ANd in that time period i started to like her again. Eventually she broke up with him saying somthing about how she wasen't over her last boyfriend, which she was going out with before she came back. But then i kinda started seeing signs that she liked me. we started talking and stuff. We went to the movies a few time with a group of friends, and we sat next to each other. Then in church all the teens usually sit together (the boys anyway) and she asked if she could sit with us, and she started sitting with me in church. We go to diffrent schools and my sister goes to the same school as her. She plays basketball there. im a shy person and its hard for me to carry a conversation with her for a lengthy amount of time. So at the basketball games she would sit with me, but i guess i bored her and she would leave and sit with other guys. My friend told me she was might ask me to their prom, but he said she might not because her parents want her to take me but she dosen't like her parents so she might ask somone else. And now i heard from that same friend that she is leaving the school, and she won't say why. So i need some advice on if she likes me, and if i should ask her out.

[Angelina]

I really sympathize with you, though i m not junior but i can imagine what you are going through.See I believe and being a girl I can say that she might have an idea that you are falling for her and want to ask her out. First of all if you just have a simple conversation about her leaving school ,then it will make clear if she tells you, and also I believe you should ask her out as if you didnt then for a long time you'll be in the dilemma what if i had asked her.So to get rid of that guilty feeling pop up the question on the right time and do it man.
Best of Luck. :)

[Majordubt]

THank you sooo much, but i have a few more things. On my adventure of asking her out (though i haven't asked her yet) i happened to get an email address from her. Actually 2 of them. But my friend gave it to me that goes to her school. So i don't know if she knows i have it or not. And do you think she would care if i suddenly started emailing her. Also she is going through a rough time right now and i want her to know that im there for her and that she can talk to me if she needs someone. So how do i approach in telling her this. So please help, thanks again!!

[Angelina]

THank you sooo much, but i have a few more things. On my adventure of asking her out (though i haven't asked her yet) i happened to get an email address from her. Actually 2 of them. But my friend gave it to me that goes to her school. So i don't know if she knows i have it or not. And do you think she would care if i suddenly started emailing her. Also she is going through a rough time right now and i want her to know that im there for her and that she can talk to me if she needs someone. So how do i approach in telling her this. So please help, thanks again!!
You mean your friend gave you those e-mail addresses? :confused: She did not? Then I think you should not mail her like that as it may disturb her. My suggestion to you is the same ,go and talk to her, confront her, atleast show her you care ,don't ask her out immediately if you are uncomfortable but do talk. Don't waste time. Best Of Luck. :)

[Majordubt]

Umm... once again thank you but i stille need help. About the email thing, my friend asked her for her email, knowing that it was for me. Ive emailed her a few times, it usually takes about a day or so somtimes more for an email back (i started emailing before i got your advice). But what i want to know is if she likes this other guy. I went to her school on a saturday for this donkey basketball thing (which was very interesting), and everything started well. We talked some and laughed at what was going on. THen at half time she goes to get somthing to eat. And when she comes back up she brings this guy up and sits with us, which was cool and all, but this is the same guy that before when i went to their basketball games, she would leave me and go sit with him, and i was thinking well at least now she is still sitting with me. But for the rest of the night she talked with him, and didn't even talk to me. So if she playing the jelousy game or what. But because of that, i was depresed the rest of the weekend. Please help.

[Angelina]

Umm... once again thank you but i still need help. About the email thing, my friend asked her for her email, knowing that it was for me. Ive emailed her a few times, it usually takes about a day or so sometimes more for an email back (i started emailing before i got your advice). But what i want to know is if she likes this other guy. I went to her school on a saturday for this donkey basketball thing (which was very interesting), and everything started well. We talked some and laughed at what was going on. THen at half time she goes to get somthing to eat. And when she comes back up she brings this guy up and sits with us, which was cool and all, but this is the same guy that before when i went to their basketball games, she would leave me and go sit with him, and i was thinking well at least now she is still sitting with me. But for the rest of the night she talked with him, and didn't even talk to me. So if she playing the jelousy game or what. But because of that, i was depresed the rest of the weekend. Please help.

First of all, don't feel depressed.Cheer up!!! I know its easy to say but tough to imply ,TRY and smile.

Reagarding that girl, now I think its high time. What kind of conversations you had on e-mails? Did you show you care? And what about her moving somewhere? I thought you said earlier that she is moving? Am I wrong? And look for the right time and ask her out say for a good movie or some pizza or just a coffee at starbucks. If you think that anybody can tell you clearly whether she likes you or not then its difficult,sometimes even the person doesnot know that he/she likes someone.
So ,go for it and give me the good news. ;)

[Majordubt]

she was going to move to a different school, because of her parents. so i don't know if she is still moving, but should i ask her? she dosen't know that i know this, once again my friend told me (which was her last boyfriend). Would you like to see my emails to her and hers to me? will that help. SHould i ask her in person or through email. I have been thinking about just asking her bluntly over an email, because im going crazy. so please help me one more time.

[Angelina]

I can imagine what you are going through. I would suggest ok whichever mails you think are important and have some content then do let me know. Even you can send PM, if you want.
Still I'll suggest that please confront her if you can and talk to her.
Take care.

[Majordubt]

Don't worry anymore i already screwed things up. My sister's friend said that she didn't like me. So now that my life is screwed over should i just come out and say how i feel and maybe what i did wrong, or what? Maybe i should ask her if it's true, about not likeing me. But is is adding up. She hasen't anwsered my email and i sent it sunday night. so do you think i still have a chance because im willing to do whatever it takes. WHen i envision my life without her, i don't even know what to do. When i heard what my sister said i about died (not literally). but anyway thanks for all the help soo far i really appreiciate it very much.

[Angelina]

Hey relax, that's not the end of world. May be this is just an infatuation and even if it was not then also you cannot do anything. Yeah one thing can be done, and I am repeating myself, confront her, talk to her on face ,make things clear. Believe me this is for your good. Ask her what she thinks about you? and whatever you want. See what worse can happen than the present situation? So go for it. Good luck.

[Majordubt]

Well, i did what you said and told her how i felt and if she would like to go out sometime. But it was via email, because i tried to tell her in person and i just couldn't get it out, so i tried email. this is her response
" hey, how are you? sorry it's taken me so long to write back.
>umm... ok i dont really know what to say. im flattered that you like
>me. i think you're a really nice guy and you're a really great
>friend but im not really interested in liking anyone as more than
>friends right now. we could hang out and stuff but it would just be
>as friends and i would totally understand if you didn't want to. i
>just want to make sure i dont give you the wrong impression or lead
>you on in anyway. you deserve better than that...better than me. you
>are one of the sweetest guys i have ever met and honestly
i dont
deserve to have you like me at all. and im not just saying that
either, it really is true. anyways... i'll let you go now."
So i decided to email back and i said "sorry, i didnt mean to startle you by the last letter, but i had to tell you. It had been eating me alive and i figured i should get it out and tell you rather than keeping it inside of me and never knowing what to think. After sending the email i thought it was a bad idea and i probablly should have told you in person, but then again im really shy so i dont know if i could have. and no i dont think that im too good for you so please dont think that, i understand that you dont want a relationship right now and i totally respect that. But dont say im too good for you or i dont deserve you because i dont think that and its not true. Yes i still would like to do stuff and hang out, that would be cool. and once again sorry about sending the email! Also i wanted to say that if you ever needed someone to talk to that i would be more
than happy to listen, even though i am kinda shy."
and then she sent
"it's ok, i totally understand and i'm glad you told me. i always had an idea of how you felt but i never knew for sure since you never really said anything, so thank you for telling me. thank you also for being so understanding. honestly, you don't know everything about me so don't be so sure about my being good enough for you but thank you for saying so just the same. that would be cool if we could hang out sometime though. you're so lucky you get spring break!!! anyway, if i ever need someone to talk to i'll keep you in mind and the same thing goes for me. you can always talk to me and i don't think your that shy. you may have trouble thinking of things to say sometimes but that doesn't necessarily mean that you're shy. i see you with other people and you seem really outgoing so maybe it's just me. i mean i know i can be pretty intimidating sometimes but come on... ok im just kidding. so anyway i've got to go now. i'll see you tomorrow."
then i just sent one saying that she didnt know much about me either and that i've done somethings my self, and not to think that im all that great either and i said a few other things. So thats the story. I dont know if i should give up and quit trying, cause she obviously turned me down. Should i keep emailing her, keep showing her im interseted, What Should I DO Now?!!?

[Angelina]

I think now don't give her much attention, I know its tough but you have to be strong. You know only way left is give less importance to her, treat her as a friend, just a casual friend. BUT don't pay attention to some other girl in front of her , no jealousy game.
And within some days you'll get to know is there any chance or not?
My dear life goes on, just a few more days ,then forget her and go on with your life.
That's what I can think of right now.
Hope you'll get lov eof your life soon. :)

[Majordubt]

there is one last thing. Last night my mom came to me and we were talking and she said that there were a few people who have seen me and this girl together and they seemed to think that she liked me. And also my mom said that last sunday evening, i was doing the offering in the church, and before church started i slid my bible down the asle, and the this girl was already down sitting with another girl and my bible landed beside the other girl. I walked away to the back, because thats where we stand untill we take gthe offering. and my mom said that she asked the girl to move to the other side of her, opposite of my bible. And she ended up just moving my bible next her (i didn't get to sit with her though because the row filled up and there was no room). ANd also on wensday after church, i noticed her hair was different , she curled it (or its naturally curlly) and it looked amazing. But the thing is she stayed after for a while with me and another friend and she never stays very long, and maybe its just me but i think she wanted to see if i liked or not. She said she hated it, and didnt like. i eventually told her that it looked really good and that she should wear it like that more often. ANd then we were (we being me ,her and the other firend) going to go to dairy queen but her parents would have got mad at her for being out to late so she left for home. She also said that she wasen't going with anyone to their prom, and she said that a few people form her school had asked her many times and shekept saying no. So i dont know what to think, i have mixed feelings, not about me liking her about her and what she is doing, what she feels. ANd we're still emailing each other sooo. i dont know. I just know it will be hard for me to let her go. once again thanks for all the advice, i should like owe you money or somthing.

[Angelina]

I am glad to hear some good news from your side. I am sorry fo rreplying so late, I was a little busy.

Now there is nothing like let go. DON'T. Ask her for out, and this time it must be only you and her. May be for some smoothies....
And yes you owe me, you owe me a happy smiley but only when you'll get th epeace of your mind back.

I think at present she herself doesn;t know what she wants. So, keep trying, keep mailing. ;)

[Angelina]

What happened? whats going on at your end? Did you ask her out? What did she say?

[michelle324]

same thing happened to me. i used to like a guy but he left when i was like in 4th grade. the i saw him on wealthymendotcom while i was browsing. i did not even recognize him but i saw his name and i sent him a message. so we hooked up and after some time he became my boyfriend. as it turns out he wanted to ask me out long ago but he was scared i might reject him so he did not. if i had not seen him, we could have never been together. my advice... tell her now than be sorry alter in life. if what you said was true then there is nothing to lose right? go for it!

[mabel01]

com'on! if you like each other, y make it hard for yourselves? ;)

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