BlueRaptor7
10-27-2006, 06:59 AM
First of all, thanks in advance to all of you who lend their advice/experiences. =)
To not bore all of you, I think I'll wrap up what happened in a nutshell. Her name is Liz, but I wasn't immediatly attracted to her. But it gradually came, and then I found the only thing on my mind was her.
We ended up talking every night...rather, very early morning. She continued to say that she has never met a guy like me, and that I'm the sweetest guy she knows.
So I finally got up the courage to ask her out, as my heart was pumping a million times a second. Taking both of her hands, I told her how much I hate the fact that this question was overused, but I asked her out. She did the "uhm... uhm... uhm..." thing, while grinning at me. Then the crystal words came across: "Yes". I threw my arms around her in a hug, probably in disbelief.
Well... that wasn't much of a nutshell, no? lol Anyways.
Her and I have been getting along great, but I feel that I am not fully fleshing out my part. She knows that I get nervous very easily, along with the fact that I'm naturally shy. When we were just talking on the phone early tonight, she asked me if I was sure that I had nothing else to ask her. And I said: "Maybe... but not 100%". Then she replied, "Maybe you should get to 100%, as that would be better for both of us." By no means was that said in a negative way! But... I feel like she's wanting more than what I'm doing right now... like... I'm doing the right things, or saying the right words. I give her hugs all the time and hold her from behind quite often. I take her hand when we walk, etc.
There's just this delving feeling in the back of my mind that drives me crazy. I think it really gets down to the fact that I get tounge-tied around her, and I cannot really initiate conversation all that well. When I have something I want to say, I keep telling myself, "Alright, here it comes next," but, of course, that never happens, and before you know it, she's out of my car - and I kick myself.
Any advice on what I should do to remove this feeling of incompetance that I have with myself? Is it a natural feeling that will be quelmed with time?
Again, many thanks in advance! =)
To not bore all of you, I think I'll wrap up what happened in a nutshell. Her name is Liz, but I wasn't immediatly attracted to her. But it gradually came, and then I found the only thing on my mind was her.
We ended up talking every night...rather, very early morning. She continued to say that she has never met a guy like me, and that I'm the sweetest guy she knows.
So I finally got up the courage to ask her out, as my heart was pumping a million times a second. Taking both of her hands, I told her how much I hate the fact that this question was overused, but I asked her out. She did the "uhm... uhm... uhm..." thing, while grinning at me. Then the crystal words came across: "Yes". I threw my arms around her in a hug, probably in disbelief.
Well... that wasn't much of a nutshell, no? lol Anyways.
Her and I have been getting along great, but I feel that I am not fully fleshing out my part. She knows that I get nervous very easily, along with the fact that I'm naturally shy. When we were just talking on the phone early tonight, she asked me if I was sure that I had nothing else to ask her. And I said: "Maybe... but not 100%". Then she replied, "Maybe you should get to 100%, as that would be better for both of us." By no means was that said in a negative way! But... I feel like she's wanting more than what I'm doing right now... like... I'm doing the right things, or saying the right words. I give her hugs all the time and hold her from behind quite often. I take her hand when we walk, etc.
There's just this delving feeling in the back of my mind that drives me crazy. I think it really gets down to the fact that I get tounge-tied around her, and I cannot really initiate conversation all that well. When I have something I want to say, I keep telling myself, "Alright, here it comes next," but, of course, that never happens, and before you know it, she's out of my car - and I kick myself.
Any advice on what I should do to remove this feeling of incompetance that I have with myself? Is it a natural feeling that will be quelmed with time?
Again, many thanks in advance! =)