puzzled
01-10-2007, 03:27 AM
Hi, this is my first posting on this forum, and if anybody could help, I have a problem that has plagued me for the past month.
First, some background
I am a high school senior. I enjoy athletics, and love to socialize. I can easily talk to girls. In addition, I have friends in all "cliques". I do, however, have limited dating experience.
Here is my dilemma.
This past semester, I took three classes with a certain girl, christy. During this time, we flirted and developed an amazing connection. She has good looks, and an amazing personality. I was ready to ask her out late november, however as we both had been asked to boosters, I was unable to do so. During boosters, she ditched her date, and i did mine, so we were able to hang out.
finally on the 10th of december i was able to ask her out
We went to get ice cream, and later see a film (apocalipto, yes i know). The date went well. She was fun, and the discussion was rich, laughter, etc. This was untill the movie. At the movie, I was probably a bit annoying and went for a kiss when i shouldn't have. The kiss was agressive, and bad. The date ended, and when i drove her home, she hugged me and smiled.
For the next few days, she dodged me untill finally i forced the topic. "It was too fast, and she said" and needs time to think.
Later, right before break, I again forced the question and said that it was still way too awkward and that i saw one of two possible alternatives. One was that i was so bad that we should just leave it, and the other was coffee. She chose coffee and smiled, but unfortunately was also sick and i was unable to hold her to her word.
Another note, she is what many would call the "band geek", but she still has an amazing personality, and we have a great connection.
Then came the holidays, and we both went out of town.
Today, we were finally able to get coffee (1 month after terrible first date, and two and a half weeks since we last saw eachother). The time was fun, and i feel that the situation can be fixed. There is though one big dillema.
The dilemma is that although i have very limited dating experience, she has nil. As such, i do not know how to proceed, and if so if i should do so with college coming. She is looking at CU (80% certain), and i am looking at CU(40%) vandy (15%) wake (15%) u=penn(25%) and mines (5%). As such the relationship has an even chance of being long distance, and if we do go to the same school, do i really want to not explore new things?
Any help as to if is should proceed and if so how?
An additional note. She is very busy, and i don't know her friends very well. As such, it is hard to spend time together now. This indecision that she inadvertently caused is killing me (too much time to think), and while she is great maybe a (i hate saying this b/c it degrades women) girl who is less of a project would be better for me as a senior.
Also, today (and previously), she has been avoiding me a bit from time to time and acknowledging me less. I brought this up, but her response still seems to indicate that she is ok with the situation.
Any help for this high school senior with mutual (i hope and believe) interest, a blown first date (1 month ago), and a lack of communication over the holidays?
First, some background
I am a high school senior. I enjoy athletics, and love to socialize. I can easily talk to girls. In addition, I have friends in all "cliques". I do, however, have limited dating experience.
Here is my dilemma.
This past semester, I took three classes with a certain girl, christy. During this time, we flirted and developed an amazing connection. She has good looks, and an amazing personality. I was ready to ask her out late november, however as we both had been asked to boosters, I was unable to do so. During boosters, she ditched her date, and i did mine, so we were able to hang out.
finally on the 10th of december i was able to ask her out
We went to get ice cream, and later see a film (apocalipto, yes i know). The date went well. She was fun, and the discussion was rich, laughter, etc. This was untill the movie. At the movie, I was probably a bit annoying and went for a kiss when i shouldn't have. The kiss was agressive, and bad. The date ended, and when i drove her home, she hugged me and smiled.
For the next few days, she dodged me untill finally i forced the topic. "It was too fast, and she said" and needs time to think.
Later, right before break, I again forced the question and said that it was still way too awkward and that i saw one of two possible alternatives. One was that i was so bad that we should just leave it, and the other was coffee. She chose coffee and smiled, but unfortunately was also sick and i was unable to hold her to her word.
Another note, she is what many would call the "band geek", but she still has an amazing personality, and we have a great connection.
Then came the holidays, and we both went out of town.
Today, we were finally able to get coffee (1 month after terrible first date, and two and a half weeks since we last saw eachother). The time was fun, and i feel that the situation can be fixed. There is though one big dillema.
The dilemma is that although i have very limited dating experience, she has nil. As such, i do not know how to proceed, and if so if i should do so with college coming. She is looking at CU (80% certain), and i am looking at CU(40%) vandy (15%) wake (15%) u=penn(25%) and mines (5%). As such the relationship has an even chance of being long distance, and if we do go to the same school, do i really want to not explore new things?
Any help as to if is should proceed and if so how?
An additional note. She is very busy, and i don't know her friends very well. As such, it is hard to spend time together now. This indecision that she inadvertently caused is killing me (too much time to think), and while she is great maybe a (i hate saying this b/c it degrades women) girl who is less of a project would be better for me as a senior.
Also, today (and previously), she has been avoiding me a bit from time to time and acknowledging me less. I brought this up, but her response still seems to indicate that she is ok with the situation.
Any help for this high school senior with mutual (i hope and believe) interest, a blown first date (1 month ago), and a lack of communication over the holidays?