Overcome shyness?

[carebear]

Hello everyone,

How do you overcome shyness?

I would love to make more friends and start dating with some cute guys, but I am always shy to agree their dates, and always shy to look into their face. I always regret whenever I turn them down. :( I am ok with those guys when we are in groups, however, when we are left alone (2 of us), I will be soo shy, that I can't talk! I wish to date!! Some one help me! Any suggestion? :(

[shy1]

Hey carebear shy1 here I am sorry I can't help I am just as bad as you if not worse. So if you ever get some good advice let me know. God knows that I have passed up some pretty good potential dates because of my shyness. Some guys find shyness cute but in a relationship you need more than cuteness. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. And making friends online is a good first step because you can be yourself without feeling judged or embarassed. Take it from someone who knows, at first I was even TOO shy to chat online. I still am.

[vanessabg]

Hey carebear shy1 here I am sorry I can't help I am just as bad as you if not worse. So if you ever get some good advice let me know. God knows that I have passed up some pretty good potential dates because of my shyness. Some guys find shyness cute but in a relationship you need more than cuteness. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. And making friends online is a good first step because you can be yourself without feeling judged or embarassed. Take it from someone who knows, at first I was even TOO shy to chat online. I still am.
I am also shy like both of you and wants more advices to overcome shyness.

[systemic7]

Best advice I can give is... make yourself miserable. :D

Seriously, though, it works. Just throw yourself into experiences you know that, due to your shyness, you will hate. Eventually you will have to start to overcome them. Painful? Yeah, but it helped me in many ways. Anyway, good luck.

[jlemdon]

Hello everyone,

How do you overcome shyness?

I would love to make more friends and start dating with some cute guys, but I am always shy to agree their dates, and always shy to look into their face. I always regret whenever I turn them down. :( I am ok with those guys when we are in groups, however, when we are left alone (2 of us), I will be soo shy, that I can't talk! I wish to date!! Some one help me! Any suggestion? :(

I'm going to give u a little secret carebear, I'm going to tell u about us men.

we like when we are comfortable around a women so if u just act normal the men will act normal but if u wanna get to know more about the person ask him in a jokingly manner.;)

tbh, it's all about mutual communication.

[godmode21]

To overcome shyness, the best advice I can give is just be yourself, if you are a nerd and know about nuclear physics bust out some crazy fact and show your brain power, or listen to conversation for a second relate to the story in some obscure way and tell something about yourself, if someone is interested in you they will jump right in with some questions, that’s when you can feel a little more comfortable and if people don’t receive that well then you don’t want to be associated with them anyway. Take for example me, I am a photographer, if I like someone I tell them you have a great face for photography and then I ask if I can take their picture sometime. If I wasn’t a photographer I would just say something like “wow work was crazy today” someone is bound to ask why. I am shy when it comes to talking to pretty girls I know that I have to see all the time, cause unlike meeting strangers, I have to see them every day and if I say something stupid (like I just did) then I feel weird around them.

[VelvetSky]

do the so called "newbie mission" - go out 4 times a week to a place and simply say "hi!" with a smile to everyone. there is no further goal, only saying "hi!"

[alicia8522]

Start talking with a clear voice, and pour out all your heart's content, and then you will feel light at heart, and will feel that you can talk a lot, if you want.

[kawDinaintede]

Probably around 18 or so . . . right when I started losing all my friends and connections

I was probably wikipedia surfing and clicking various links, probably started with psychology --> shyness --> friendship --> relationships --> love --> love shyness . . . it would be inevitable I would come here.

[charles457]

I think you just work on it by having staring contest. That will help because I was the same way about girls until I started to do that. Also I was really trying to overcome shyness and have dates every week.

[aprces]

I think once you met a girl that you really love her, there will not exist a problem about shyness, blazing impulse will make you do anything you never did it before. this is my personal experience, it works. Once you feel shy, maybe that means she is not your partner, just wait for your chemical one

[ninoajah]

Hello everyone,

How do you overcome shyness?

I would love to make more friends and start dating with some cute guys, but I am always shy to agree their dates, and always shy to look into their face. I always regret whenever I turn them down. :( I am ok with those guys when we are in groups, however, when we are left alone (2 of us), I will be soo shy, that I can't talk! I wish to date!! Some one help me! Any suggestion? :(
Why are you shy? I had been there before, I was shy..I know how bad it is .:D
That question is always helping me out each time my shyness come up. Why should be I shy? Of course I shouldn't..and you know what the best part is? We would be still good-looking and attracting without shy

[charles457]

In order to overcome shyness, that is a big one. I think you should practice talking to the opposite and have staring contest with them. That helped me and make sure you be yourself when talking.