Cannot get this girl out of my mind. What should I do?

[Zaraki]

I met an awesome girl in a college class like 5-6 weeks ago and the week when I was going to ask her out, she did not show up.

We talked for a total of 6 hours, which is 2 class sessions, 3 hours each.

Since then she has not shown up to class, so I guess she dropped the class. She did tell me that she was forcefully taking the class, so I guess she did not like the class. The class was a communication class that required you to go up in front of class to recite poems and prose's.

Anyways... after not seeing her for 2 weeks in-class, I figured I would drop by where she works in order to ask her out to ice skating for a first date. Unfortunately, I was not able to find her at her work place.

Since then I have stopped trying to get into contact with her. However, I could not get her out of my head because I want to know if she would have said yes or no when I was going to ask her. The reason for this is because, when I was talking to her she seemed so awesome and there were lots of genuine(gleaming) eye contact and I believe there was a good enough of a click for a date.

Some information about her: We are the same age (20 years old).
Said she does not like to dance (which I found interesting because she is in great shape and if she does not like dancing then it most likely also mean that she is not a party girl, right?).

On to the question: Taking all of this into account, should I visit her workplace again and try to get into contact with her to ask for a date?

Do you ladies/guys think that this will make it weird, like I am a stalker or something? I see it as perfectly normal because I really like the girl. However, I do not know if she would think it would be weird or not. I do not want to freak her out. I already tried to find her once and was not able too. Although, if she liked me also, then it would not be weird. That is the problem. I am not worried about asking her out, because I want to know her answer. I am more worried about wasting time and effort for nothing.

Having discovered her facebook, I am now able to contact her through it.
I could contact her through face book, but I think asking her in person is better. However, the only place I know where to meet her in person, is her work place.

What do you people think?

Thank You.

[charles457]

Nahh totally go for it, you need to solve the question before it continues to bother you. This has happened to me before, I usually take them out a few times before I ask though. Always try to get them on the date before you straight up ask. It makes it easier and gives you a good chance of hearing yes.

[Brock Legend]

You, my friend, have what we call: ONEITIS.

I'll give you the Clint Eastwood diagnosis.

THE GOOD: Its completely curable. Most young men catch this illness at some point in their love-lives.

THE BAD: You're not going to get the girl. You need to let go of this one and move on. You are already going to come across as creepy and a stalker to her, which pretty much ruins any chance you ever had in class.

THE UGLY: You have "inner-game" issues my friend. A building falls down because its not built on a solid foundation, and you need to tear down your pride and rebuild. Ideally you should consult a building (relationship) expert this time.

I know where you are because I've been there before. When I was in college I suffered from exactly the same thing you have now. One bout of oneitis after another. Tell me if this sounds like you- Your emotions are a bit of a rollercoaster. There's almost always ONE girl in your mind that you like at any time. You know who she is. When you meet her you know that she has potential, and after watching her in a few classes your obsession grows. It keeps getting bigger and bigger and more powerful, until one of two things happens.

1) You get the balls to ask her out. Usually this can be somewhat awkward because you're nervous. But you KNOW that if she said yes you could totally take her on a date that would be totally perfect. Of course, when you do ask she has a boyfriend or LJBF's (Let's Just Be Friends).

2) She fades away. She changes classes, the semester ends, she moves, or you decide that she wasn't that wonderful afterall because you find another girl you like. Still, if you ever bump into her again those feelings come rushing back.

Given these outcomes, which one do you get the girl with?

Correct. You don't. But you usually don't mind because in college you are meeting so many girls you find another one to start the cycle with again. Even though you're not getting anywhere with them, emotionally you don't mind because there's always that new high of finding a new girl. But a word of warning my friend: After college there won't be the constant stream of women, and you will slip into a very dark place if you don't confront and fix your self esteem issues NOW, while you still have the chance.

Sometimes the truth can be hard to accept. And you may try to rationalize things by telling yourself that you've had girlfriends before. You get laid. I mean, this is college man. But are you actually making any progress with the types of girls that you'd really want to get to know? Be honest. Truth is the first step to change. Because there is a way to attract and keep these beautiful women. It's not magic, and it's not luck, it's just science.